Saturday, 25 December 2021

Dire Days ..... merry fucking Christmas ....

 4:00

try as I might, I can not sleep

then the Monkey wants to change the pipe on my water pump....NO !!!!


4:15

I might as well do it now..... I call Lifelabs...someone actually answers the phone at this hour.... she emails me my Testing Report.... NEGATIVE


4:30

Where did that native cedar-wood box go?   Together with the missing wrist-watches I'm getting wary....especially since someone moved/took the safe combination paper and it looks like someone moved the stuff in front of the safe......  I check the stuff in the living room... all little boxes and containers that contained the Native stuff..... EMPTY... just still sitting there.....

4:45

I bite the bullet .... into the ice-cold (literally) garage with a space heater, a flashlight, and my reading lamp....good thing the safe combination was their old German telephone number....and I still remember it.... I get the safe open on the second try... a moment of fear, but no, there is the cedar box....I must have put it in there before I left....knowing not to trust ditzy Grandma.....  but where the hell is her last will and testament.... good thing the house is already in my name ....

5:30

Vietnam closed its borders in March 2020....just after I came back from Phnom Penh...more than 1.5 years ago....

and I should stop despairing... in all my decisions, Karma always seemed to have been on my side....

But this house IS depressing....

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TIRED....

emails to Lisa & Phap.....

6:15

shit....the flight cost me $850 and not $650 as I thought ....but that's still way cheaper than the $3000 it would have cost me a week earlier.... Karma again ;-)

Eda replies.... friendly but not loving as usual.... and I can feel my mood dropping already.... I need LOVE but very few people seem to be able to give it ... or maybe I'm just not loveable?

7:15

I simply can not sleep ....too many things to do....

I open another bottle of wine (the coming shortage is adding to my panic) and have a coffee.... 

lots of flight cancellations in the world because of Omicron

it will be -11 C in Vancouver tomorrow night.... how the fuck am I going to get food and booze?

instead of being productive (still haven't taken a shower after the flight), I keep clicking around the internet looking for good news....

8:15

I finally fall asleep

10:00

First step of today's agenda.....call the car people...... she remembers me and chats on the phone with me for quite a while... and says "Chris, we always have a car for you".

Shower put on long pants and shoes and a hoodie and Grandpa's fur jacket... call a taxi

The Cabbie is NOT wearing a mask and the ride down to Lo-Cost costs me $17....what a fucked up country...

Joana & husband are such nice people... we talk for 15 minutes.... I get a Yaris....first time I drive a car in 2 years !!!! $1500 per month... better than taking a taxi  and cheap compared to what Grandma costs.

Liquor store next door... might as well buy a case of Viognier ;-)

The Persian store changed owners...it's a GREAT store now.... and the guy at the cashier first talks to me in Farsi (my tanned olive skin?), is GORGEOUS and chatty... unfortunately he forgets to pack my jam...or maybe it's in the car?

Back home, Nooria has left and Disha, a very pleasant young woman from India is giving care to Grandma.... she is chatty and not shy....

12:45 Elizabeth & some hot young Brazilian guy show up....bring cookies for grandma ..


.. I get right to the point...she needs to go into a home... Elizabeth will help ! ;-)

14:00

Chantal calls..... a good conversation about her being a hoarder and unhappy mother and about me possibly haven fallen for a trickster and hustler

15:00

A Phap email.....  "Wish Merry Christmas.  Happy. Peace".... I can not help noticing that he doesn't include my name.... Chantal's probably right...

Screw it.... Karma will settle it and I have a job to do... actually many jobs !

16:00

I can't stand anymore and go lie down.... my phone chirping wakes me at 16:45....It's Bill, Elizabeth's husband.... I will meet him on Sunday at 11 in Park Royal.....

nap again

18:15...still tired.... I have a coffee & a disgusting chocolate pudding with cherries

Then I find Grandma's bank statements... Her account really had that little in it.... 

tired

I sleep for an hour....

Agnes shows up....nice and chatty....

Yes, stuff was taken.... my silver rabbit baby rattle is gone too....



21:00

I can't help it...."it is most peaceful next to Phap", I write.... if he's really just a stupid whore, might as well make him feel a little guilty.....   oooh....nasty me.... now I feel guilty....

I talk to Agnes...she's nice

Rummaging around the basement back room, I rip part of my big toenail off... I ask Agnes as an RN whether my plan of self-bandaging makes sense....and yeah, I got it right.....

Annie, Thanh/VH, Dong/QN, and Zu all sent me happy birthday messages today.... WTF?

22:45

sleep

1:00

I wake up hungry.... one cherry Eggo and one cheese/caper baguette....yummy....

back to sleep

3:00

awake again

How do I get a booster shot?..... check booster shot BC......oh, I can register to get vaccinated online...

Then it occurs to me ..... since it is all computerized, they will not know about my 2 previous shots.... and think someone at my age has NOT been vaccinated..... I should be almost 1st in line ...


Look up Power of Attorney..... it doesn't have to be notarized for money issues, only for selling property. But even a notarized one won't allow me to make healthcare decisions for her.



And 50% of people still don't wear masks.... and there are no hand sanitizers at credit card machines.  They will never learn.

nap

4:45

awake again..... another coffee, eat some manicotti.   Iwona emailed me with birthday wishes...


...WTF is going on ?!?

emails from Joanna/Paris & The Monkey....

5:45

Having a smoke on the balcony, I notice that grandma's curtains are drawn for the first time ever.... it takes me a while to realize that she is getting washed..... during the next smoke I think I faintly hear her annoying screams.... and it hits me .... there are NO noises here, except the creek.... no roosters, no cicadas, no frogs, no dogs, no nothing...and nothing is moving .... none of those divine flocks of white herons, no fishermen in their coracles, no dogs humping at the beach, no villagers pulling the endless net out of the ocean..... nothing.... it's DEAD here....

I start moving all the tax stuff in the downstairs middle room.... and I notice that my Native Converse hightops are not there.... WTF!....


7:00

tired again.....

NOPE

7:30



I start shoveling snow...


. with a shovel whose handle is way to short, so I have to bend down low...they make women's shovels now?





8:30

I call Ingo and we chat happily for 30 mins... better than last time....

9:00

LOL.... I knew it.... the computer system at BC Health thinks I'm unvaccinated, so I got bumped to the front of the line and I'll get my 3rd dose on Dec. 30.

9:10

What to do now?... I feel lonely.... so I eat and drink....


10:00

The call to Hans is a bit disappointing....

10:30

time to have a nap, I think....

OMG, I slept well a lot

14:00

Jessica emailed back....she's not visiting....phony?!?

Grandma is screaming at the caretakers in that nasty way of hers

nap

18:00

Manicotti with salsa..... I'm going to get fat so fast :-(

The keyboard on the laptop stops working..... thankfully a reboot helps.... panic...

18:45

The computer updated and they managed to fuck up the image-editing program..... congrats retards ! (again)

Grandma shit her diapers and won't allow Maryam to change them and even screams at her. I tell her it's not lady-like and that does the trick.

I'm paralyzed with depression....just want to go back to sleep.....

nap

20:30

Phap zaloed..... Have a happy day..... he doesn't clue in about the time difference?

21:00

talk to Disha for a bit.... she has to commute to Surrey by public transit....OMFG....

22:30

tired....but I try to stay awake so I won't be up at 2 am again...

22:45

Disha's asking whether the fireplace has a switch gives me an idea.....yes, the downstairs one has a switch... I turn it on and after a few tries am able to ignite the pilot light..



. and then the fireplace....YEAH !

sleep

1:00

I microwave and wolf down a cabbage roll

2:00

OMG, Freedom Mobile charges $0.75 per minute for calls to Vietnam....

Good thing for Zalo ;-)


Friday, 17 December 2021

On the way to Mordor ..... Saigon 3

7:45

WOW....

9:50

I've done a lot.... 

buy banh mi..... yesterday's stand is gone, maybe sold out....


I find another one....egg with veggies but no pate....edible....

11:30

Morning is almost over.... I'm getting dark thoughts again.....

11:35

Is that moving pipes or a knock on the door..... Phap is in front of my door <BIG GRIN>

drink, touch, undress (for the first time in 6 months), nap.....

14:45

walk

this time we walk to the river.... and I even remember where the bicycle rental store is....

eat at Booklover's Cafe..... Fish & Chips and a Hawaiian pizza....too much food....let's hope it won't get stuck!

18:30

and he's gone again and that profound emptiness is back..... he says he'll be back on Sunday.....


I finish watching Halston....


22:45

A Phap email....sleep well


.... I reply in kind .... SHIT, I LOVE HIM ....


Thursday, 16 December 2021

On the way to Mordor ..... Saigon 2

 5:30

I hear that Iwona is leaving Vietnam.  WTF?

6:30

I write to Phap.  "When will I see you?"

7:15

oh oh.... The Typhoon forecast: max winds of 260 km/h just before hitting the Philippines...and still 140 at the time of its closest approach to MY HOME at 1am on Monday morning.....

7:30

I better slow down with the booze...already guzzled half a bottle......

8:00

maybe time for a nap....

9:00

that's better..... 

no email, no Phap.... 

I should go out for a Banh Mi and take the garbage out while the cart is sitting outside ;-)


I find a Banh Mi just around the corner..


.. YUMMY

I look deeper into where to get the Covid Test..... OMFG, it's fucking complicated !

I finish watching 'The Big Short' again..... 

11:00

Iwona is being let go by her company.... cowardly bastards efficiently silencing the voice in their midst that tells them they're doing something wrong ....

No Phap news..... I'm starting to think I will never see him again..... 

Maybe today will be a day for tallying and reckoning


11:30

Adjusting the scheduling..... maybe CoVid test at the CDC HCMC on Monday morning?

12:00

Depressed....then I see that there was an email from Phap 25 minutes ago.... he will travel now to come see me ......

Time to take that shower ;-)

and to buy some snacks and yogurt

13:05

I just booked a flight..... December 23.....through Narita.....CAD$ 850 including cancellation insurance.... things are improving ;-)

13:15

13:30

The phone rings....he's in front of the door....

Holding hands, hugging, napping, walking, eating, etc.....

and then he tells me has to work tonight..... but that he will be back tomorrow....

20:00

nap

Jessica emailed

00:00

time to go back to sleep.....



Wednesday, 15 December 2021

On the way to Mordor ..... Sai Gon I

On my way to Canada (Horror) .... My first full day in Sai Gon:

 

6:00

I feel worn out....

coffee with warm shower water (no kettle in the room), wine on the balcony ....


..I get to watch Sai Gon wake up...

.. what a beautiful view....

More slight sadness when I take out the "water the plants" and "swim" items from my daily to-do list.... that life is over :-( ... hopefully not for TOO TOO long

8:15

I've done calisthenics (no weights though :-( ... and brushed my teeth.... the day is progressing well... even though I'm drunk.....

Given the absence of working computer speakers, I keep Bohemian Rhapsody playing on Netflix on the TV .....

9:00

bring the 2nd batch of laundry away...the woman is not there and yesterday's laundry is dry but is still in the dryer .....

10:15

back in the room...... still no luck with the laundry.....but I got some cheap computer speakers at The Gioi Di Dong..... of course they had all the fancy brands....but I just needed some cheap ones NOW....and of course they are crap....at 225k VND..


... but they work better than the fried speakers in my laptop ;-)

I call Chantal for 30 minutes..... I need a wall to bounce my thoughts against to see what comes back...

11:15

I finally meet the washer woman.... I tell her not to rush but I want to pick up both packs of dry laundry tonight....

bloody Xmas trees everywhere !


Sushi time




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OMG, that is good ;-)


12:15

I have new tissue paper... instead of putting it in front of the door, they brought it into the room and installed it ... SIGH....

time for a nap soon ;-)

13:30

could nap more.... but no...drink more

14:45

The laundry STILL is not done yet... back to my usual store.... and YES, she actually has a case of Dalat in the back... and of course, I take it ;-)

15:15

A walk.... No, laundry is STILL not folded ....

I walk down Bui Vien..

I used to buy food for Huyen here...


.. OMG, this place has changed..
there are NO tourists.... the only white people you see live here permanently

.. it has become a desolate wasteland....
This is where I had the mackerels with Alan



where I had the HORRIBLE service with M&S & Kamran
Christmas decoration from last year?


NOT sad at all that most of these monster bars are CLOSED

I find the hardware store...and even recognize the old guy that I met in sandal distress one year ago.... but he's out of that fabulous superglue....

boarded up 

I hear him before I see him.... because he sings WELL...


I offer him 10k just to take a video of him but he INSISTS that for that price I get the candy he is selling......


.. there are still a lot of The Right People around here....


This is where the muscle-man was dancing last New Year's ;-)


CLOSED....sad savory-sweet memories :-(

17:00
I head up to the common room/kitchen..... oooh, they have wine glasses ;-)
17:15
time for a nap....
or maybe not.....

18:00
I knew that at this time my search for a Banh Mi would be fruitless..... I keep walking... one of the Monster bars has pizza ....but no Hawaiian.... I keep walking..... I end up eating Fish & Chips at Booklover's Cafe....maybe I'm the first guest in days?..... she mixes up the boxes of wine, realizes her mistake and then adds white to the red.....I get Rose......But the fish is good and the chips are edible... and the dog that at first barked at me, then slept next to me, is happy to eat my leftovers ;-)

18:45
back in the room.... I still have NO idea when Phap will show up..... tonight, tomorrow, never?  Frustrating is his unwillingness or more likely inability to communicate !  (But in retrospect:  Little did I know what extreme issues and pressures he was facing in his life at that time ;-)

19:00
maybe time for a nap....


22:00
yet ANOTHER meaningless Phap email...



Monday, 13 December 2021

Dec. 14 Sad Good-Byes......off to Saigon

 5:00

I might as well get up.....

Quy only slept two hours because he had nightmares (that boy has issues)

we drank 12 hours yesterday.....


The village knows that I'm starting my journey back to Canada today.....and they drop by to say Good Bye (and maybe profit from some leave-behinds ;-)



Choi is not wearing the Hopi Bear cuff yet  ;-)


Good Bye  HOME  <tears in the eyes>


12:15

That mask seems to be irritating my upper lip.... I BETTER NOT get a cold sore before meeting Phap !

We're bussed from the plane to the terminal.... social distancing inside the plane and crammed in the bus.... ah well.... I go for a pee, preparing myself for a LONG wait for my checked-in luggage.... I come out of the washroom, use the display board to locate my carrousel. and my bags are already circling... HOW in the world did they do that?

A smoke outside.... and then the taxi hounds are upon me..... ok.....I have three bags today...so I'm not taking the bus 

13:30 at the hotel. HOW did it possibly happen so quickly? problems checking in....... a beer on the balcony....


14:00

Huyen is no longer there..... and the whole neighbourhood seems deserted....

buy wine & yogurt at the Circle-K.... at least that store is still open.....


15:00

the speakers on my laptop are definitely busted..... and the keyboard is bent....WTF?

I need music for napping..... oh.... they have Netflix on the TV here..... let's play Bohemian Rhapsody !

16:00

but I can't sleep.....

18:00

Oh, screw this, I'm HUNGRY...


.. I walk to Sushi Sun...

... the Unagi Don is FABULOUS....

...even though not cheap....but 180ml hot Sake and the Don come to 420k.... and I am SO HAPPY to eat real food again....

18:45

back in the room......

a lovey email to Phap.... 

19:00

I NEED to lie down.... 

20:30

no reply from Phap?!

time to sleep ..... but I can't ....

there is a reply....

"good night, meet again"....Echt jetzt?

I maybe pass out at 23:00

wake up a few times because I am sweating (the pillow is WET) and then because of a loud verbal fight outside....